Tony Robbins on the Importance of Being Fearless
Image credit: oprah.com Fear. It’s an emotion everyone experiences. We feel it when we think we’re in the presence of or doing something that might cause us pain or injury — physically, financially, etc. It’s what secures us from dangerous things.
But sometimes fear can stop us from doing great things. For example, fear of failure or loss of money often holds people back from becoming an entrepreneur and starting a business.
Fear is one of the many topics acclaimed life and business coach, author and motivational speaker Tony Robbins addresses in his seminars. You might have already heard of one way he does this: Robbins has attendees walk across burning coals. Yep, you read that right. The goal? To teach people to overcome their fears and take the first step beyond whatever might be holding them back.
While some have criticized the practice, others swear by it. Even Oprah did it. Her walk — as well as an in-depth conversation with Robbins — was featured on a 2012 episode of her TV show Oprah’s Next Chapter.
“People by nature are trained, almost innately, to be scared of fire and to keep away from it,” Robbins says. “That is why walking through a pathway of fire is a powerful expression of moving beyond one’s fears. Walking over any hot surface does encompass some risks, but it has been done safely for centuries, and when administered properly can have enormous value as a reminder of what we are truly capable of.”
So, it’s not so much about the act of walking over burning hot coals, but about having people face and overcome something in spite of fear.
“It’s simply a metaphor for them to break through their fears and limitations,” Robbins says. “If you look at what holds people back from expanding and deepening the quality of their lives, what prevents them from taking the actions that are necessary to transform their body, relationships, career, business or impact their kids, invariably, it’s fear — of failure, of success, of rejection, of pain and of the unknown.”
In his business seminars, Robbins encourages entrepreneurs to move past fear, in their personal and professional lives, in order to become more confident, productive and successful at everything they do. “Just like anyone can start their day with a killer workout, find a way to master a craft, find meaning in their work or create a passionate and loving relationship,” he says, “the secret lies in being able to break through the fear and unlock the limiting beliefs to create the life of your dreams.”
I had an opportunity to fire walk 11 years ago and it was an amazing feeling,although I do not think I really appreciated what it meant to achieve it.
Maybe it’s time to try the walk again.
What do you think?
Are you at Peace?
To find peace we must moderate and control what we allow our brains to take in.
We all use computers and know “Garbage in-Garbage out.
Change your brain-change your life.
Learn something new every day even if it’s for only for 15 minutes,this will keep the grey matter excited.
Keep the brain healthy.
You are at your best in the morning,use this time to spend 15 minutes learning something new:
Communicating with your colleagues in a new way,
A new cookery recipe,
Reflecting on yesterday and what did i learn.
Start a diary.
Understanding the depth of life.
Materialistic things do not show how happy or peaceful we are.
We do not have to prove to anyone how successful we are, certainly not by shouting out how big my house is,or how great my family is,or look at my fancy new car.
This is not peace.
I would much rather to choose peace and be happy instead of the above.
Even when things are going bad in your life we can choose peace.
If you take one thing away from http://www.MakeThingsHappen.cc/ you have already made the choice.
Being able to release and let go.
Let go of the material wants.
Letting go of comparing to others.
Let go,measuring your success by material wealth.
If you constantly want materialistic things,this is what you will get.
Most people want more money,more love and more time.
Because of the want,YOU will receive the WANT.
Release old regrets and excuses.
Let go of negative and insensitive people.
Let go of negative news.
Stop watching the news.
Stop watching the soaps.
Avoid surrounding yourself with negative people and negative situations.
Accept CHANGE, and let go “ that everything has to stay the same”
Lose the belief that fulfillment is at the end of your journey
You write your story.
Recognise the roller coaster of life and that there are going to be ups and downs,Life is not going to be pain free.
From science research you must start the day on a positive and release the negative.
Find new energy.
Start writing a journal.
As we work on our brain we learn new things,as we work on our attitude we see new things occur.
We start to see peace.
Commit to starting your day in the right way.
Listen or read something positive before you start your day.
Start each morning by saying “I choose peace instead of this”
You are in the right place at the right time,JUST believe it.
Start with peace and release some of the stress and mental anxiety.
So that you can find the energy for the new ideas to come through.
Take one thing away from this blog, Allow peace and Release the Negative.
Allow peace and release the want.
Use Peace And Happiness instead.
We are at our most productive and alert between 6am-9am.
Today I had my best gym session at 7am:
2.Gym was not busy
3.Had the rest of the day to spend with the wife.
It is very easy to make time for yourself just by getting up 1 hour earlier than normal.
Why not read a few pages of a book or starting writing your own blog.
Even the washing up from the night before.
Complete your worst tasks first,so that you can enjoy the rest of the day.
Before you go to bed write down on paper or your electronic device a small to-do-list.
Just 3-4 items,anymore and you will not complete them.
By doing this you start to control your day and create ME time.
My favorite time is sitting in the conservatory at 5.30am,hearing the clock ticking and the rain on the roof,reading a couple of pages of a book with no disturbances.
We can all do this if we are just prepared to get up earlier.
Use your alarm clock as an opportunity to improve yourself and lifestyle,not just to hit the snooze button because it’s just another day.
Use any available time you have to learn something new.
Listen to pod casts in the car instead of the radio
When queuing in the supermarket,send that email,pay that bill.
By utilising your time better,you create quality time doing the things YOU like to do:
Spending with your wife,
Project for work,
More time on the golf course.
It’s your choice to CHANGE.
I choose CHANGE.
Thank you for taking the time read this blog.
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How Simple Mini Habits Can Change Your Life
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts
It was late 2012, just after Christmas, and like many others I was reflecting on the year.
I realized that I had ample room for improvement in too many areas of my life, but knowing that New Year’s Resolutions have a poor 8% success rate (University of Scranton research), I wanted to explore some other options. I knew I wanted to start before January 1st too, because arbitrary start dates don’t sit well with me.
On December 28th, I decided that I wanted to get in great shape. In the previous days and weeks, however, I hardly exercised at all and felt quite guilty about it. My goal was a 30-minute workout, and it seemed impossible.
I wasn’t motivated, I was tired, and my guilt was making me feel worthless. Feeling stuck, I remembered a technique I learned from a book, and little did I know that this technique would change my life in a big way in 2013.
The technique is from the creativity book Thinkertoys, and it is to consider the opposite of an idea you’re stuck on. So I looked at my 30-minute exercise goal, and my giant fitness plan to get in great shape, and I thought about the opposite.
You could say the opposite is eating fast food and sitting on the couch, but the opposite that came to my mind was one of size.
What if, instead of carrying around this overwhelming fitness anvil on my shoulders, I just did one push-up?
Initially, I scoffed at the idea. How absurd to do a single push-up and act as if it means anything! But when I continued to struggle with my bigger plans, I finally gave in to the idea and did one, and since I was already in push-up position, I did a few more.
After that, my muscles were warmed up, and I decided to try one pull-up. Just like you guessed, I ended up doing several more. Eventually, I had exercised for 30 minutes.
My mind was blown—did I just turn a single push-up into a full workout? Yes, yes I did.
The One Push-Up Challenge Is Born
From here, I challenged my blog readers to do at least one push-up per day for a full year. People have had great success with it, and here’s what it turned into for me: For the last 3+ months, I have gone to the gym three to six times per week to exercise and I’m in great shape because of it. Now I know why it works.
I have always held a keen interest in psychology and neuroscience, and I study them for my writing. So when I read about the studies on willpower that show it’s a limited resource, everything started making sense.
I couldn’t do my 30-minute workout because my willpower wasn’t strong enough or was depleted. But I could do one push-up and segue into a 30-minute workout because it only required a tiny amount of willpower to start, after which my body and mind stopped resisting the idea.
Of course, this concept does not only apply to fitness, but to any area of your life you wish to change. And I believe I’ve found the perfect way to leverage this technique – habits.
What’s More Important Than Your Habits?
Nothing. Habits form about 45% of your total behavior, according to a Duke University study. Not only that, but they are behaviors that you repeat frequently, which compounds their significance in your life. Habits are your foundation, and if this foundation is weak, you won’t be happy with the way you live.
The reason people fail to change their lives, and fail to instill new habits, is because they try to do too much at once. In simplest terms, if your new habit requires more willpower than you can muster, you will fail. If your new habit requires less willpower than you can muster, you will succeed.
The calculation can’t just be for one instance, however, but also for when you’re tired and your willpower is zapped. Can you continue it then?
One thing I’ve been wanting to do more is write. It’s therapeutic for me and I write for a living, so it’s fairly important that I practice. When I found that I wasn’t writing as much as I should, I found out how to combine the power of The One Push-Up Challenge with a habit plan.
How To Change Your Life With Mini Habits
Mini habits are exactly as they sound. First, you choose a desired habit or change you’d like to make—it could be thinking more positively, writing 1000 words a day, or reading two books per week. I’ve had success doing three at once.
Next, you shrink these habits down until they are “stupid small,” a term I made up because when you say the requirement out loud, it is so small that it sounds stupid. Here are mine:
1. Write 50 words per day (article, story, etc.)
2. Write 50 words per day (for the habits book I’m writing)
3. Read two pages in a book per day
Easy, right? I could complete this list in ten minutes total. So far, I’ve met these daily requirements 100% of the time, and then much more.
I’ve actually written one to two thousand words and read 10-30 pages per day, for these 12 days in a row and counting. Prior to this, I wasn’t reading at all and writing very little.
It works because your brain falls for the bait.
“Oh, only 50 words? I can write that.”
And then you start. And you’ll find, like I have, that one you start, good things happen.
Ten Daily Mini Habit Ideas
1. Compliment one person
2. Think two positive thoughts
3. Meditate for one minute
4. Name three things you’re thankful for
5. Do one push-up
6. Write 50 words
7. Read two pages
8. Do ten jumping jacks
9. Go outside and take 100 steps
10. Drink one glass of water
You can change nearly any area of your life; and at one mini habit at a time, it’s easier than you think.
When you remove the pressure and expectations, you allow yourself to start.
What mini habit(s) will you start today?
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Feedback for your employees.
What is feedback?
This is a 2 way conversation between you and your staff member.
On performance:positive/negative and behavior:Positive/negative.
Are they achieving targets that are set?
Do they have a positive approach to their job,are they arriving to work on time,are they team players etc.
Focusing on the behavior is much easier than the action.
Mary arrives late by 10 minutes to work,instead of asking why she was late,we say “Mary please do not be late tomorrow”then walk away.
What this does is concentrate on the behavior,which is Mary arrived late,this is not acceptable and,not the action of WHY!(because i couldn’t find my shoes and the car wouldn’t start).
Mary does not have a chance to engage you and now knows that arriving late is not acceptable.
If this is the first time Mary has done this,your approach should reasonably be light ,however still getting the message across.
If it was the third or fourth time,the approach would be the same but much more sterner.
This type of feedback is called “a shot across the barrel”
They now know what is expected of them and you have not had to go down the route of why!
If this behavior is still happening you may have to issue an informal action.
An informal action is a noted discussion:
Do you know what is expected of you?
Why did this happen?
What can we do help to stop this happening again?
An agreed action if this happens again.
Signed by employee
Signed by manager.
Using this form helps make an action plan with review dates.
Remember you are looking for change in BEHAVIOR,therefore if Mary was late 3 times a week and now its once,that is a change,ok not where you would like to be,however an improvement.
In your review in a months you will address this.
YOU must be committed to giving feedback and keeping to the reviews to change the BEHAVIOR.
If no improvement you have to go down the more formal route.
How do you give feedback?
If you have never given feedback before to your employee,You must give positive feedback first.
This must be done over a period time so that they can accept feedback.
Then you can bring in negative feedback.
Feedback by your employees first has to be accepted.
Giving poor feedback is as non productive as giving no feedback.
The best way to give feedback is by having one 2 one on a regular basis.
This works in two ways:
1.We can find out,what they have been working on.
What is going great and what is not going so well.
What their interests are inside and out side of work.
2.We can give them feedback on areas of greatness and areas where it is not so.
Set goals on development and where they would like to be.
One 2 ones do not need to be a lengthy process,between 15- 30min once a month.
If it is your employees first one 2 on2 this may take longer as you may have a few more questions to ask to establish what their behaviors are and their needs/preferences.
Also to establish what behaviors are acceptable.
How do i prepare and perform a one 2 one.
Working on the basis that we need 30mins uninterrupted time with our employees.
The preparation should already be done by you and your management team observing and making notes on the employees behavior.
By doing this you are using real time situations which you can discuss and not hearsay.
10 minutes should be spent on what keeps them busy outside of work.
Here we can establish what their interests are and if they have any concerns that they need to discuss,which may affect their performance at work.
10 minutes should be spent on what have they been working on?
What has been your greatest challenges?
How happy do you feel on a scale of 1 -10
What do you think the team morale is like?
What has been the greatest achievement you had this month?
10 minutes should be spent your feed back to them.
Any feedback you have observed,which hasn’t already been discussed with.
Whether they achieved any targets they set and how well they did.
Have they achieved their goals what were set from last month?
How well can i be a better leader for you?
Lastly a couple of minutes spent on what they would like to achieve in the next month.
To help with your ONE 2 ONE,ask your management team to observe your employees and provide feedback to you.
This is real time information which you can discuss with your staff member.
I use this feedback at the end of the ONE 2 ONE and it has a really positive affect.
By having a monthly one 2 one,you have a chance to praise great work and empower your staff,and also iron out at a very early stage any negative behaviors.
This is your chance to build a relationship with your employees,more important when it comes to their appraisal,there are no nasty shocks and you can concentrate on the positives.
Appraisals should be completed on a six monthly basis.
REMEMBER NO FEEDBACK IS NEGATIVE FEEDBACK!
Thank you for taking time to read my article.
This is what works for me and has made my team ENGAGED & EMPOWERED.