Are you at PEACE?

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Are you at Peace?

 

To find peace we must moderate and control what we allow our brains to take in.

We all use computers and know “Garbage in-Garbage out.

Change your brain-change your life.

Learn something new every day even if it’s for only for 15 minutes,this will keep the grey matter excited.

 

Keep the brain healthy.

You are at your best in the morning,use this time to spend 15 minutes learning something new:

Communicating with your colleagues in a new way,

A new cookery recipe,

Reflecting on yesterday and what did i learn.

Start a diary.

Understanding the depth of life.

Materialistic things do not show how happy or peaceful we are.

We do not have to prove to anyone how successful we are, certainly not by shouting out how big my house is,or how great my family is,or look at my fancy new car.

 

This is not peace.

 

Let go

I would much rather to choose peace and be happy instead of the above.

Even when things are going bad in your life we can choose peace.

 

If you take one thing away from http://www.MakeThingsHappen.cc/ you have already made the choice.

 

Being able to release and let go.

Let go of the material wants.

Letting go of comparing to others.

Let go,measuring your success by material wealth.

 

If you constantly want  materialistic things,this is what you will get.

Most people want more money,more love and more time.

 

Because of the want,YOU will receive the WANT.

Release old regrets and excuses.

Let go of negative and insensitive people.

 

Let go of negative news.

Stop watching the news.

Stop watching the soaps.

Avoid surrounding yourself with negative people and negative situations.

Accept CHANGE, and let go “ that everything has to stay the same”

Lose the belief that fulfillment is at the end of your journey

 

You write your story.

 

Recognise the roller coaster of life and that there are going to be ups and downs,Life is not going to be pain free.

 

From science research  you must start the day on a positive and release the negative.

 

Find new energy.

 

Start writing a journal.

 

As we work on our brain we learn new things,as we work on our attitude we see new things occur.

 

We start to see peace.

 

Commit to starting your day in the right way.

Listen or read something positive before you start your day.

 

Start each morning by saying “I choose peace instead of this”

 

You are in the right place at the right time,JUST believe it.

 

Start with peace and release some of the stress and mental anxiety.

So that you can find the energy for the new ideas to come through.

 

Take one thing away from this blog, Allow peace and Release the Negative.

Allow peace and release the want.

 

Use Peace And Happiness instead.

Ian Williamson

http://www.makingthingshappen.cc/

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How Simple Mini Habits Can Change Your Life

 

How Simple Mini Habits Can Change Your Life

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts

It was late 2012, just after Christmas, and like many others I was reflecting on the year.

I realized that I had ample room for improvement in too many areas of my life, but knowing that New Year’s Resolutions have a poor 8% success rate (University of Scranton research), I wanted to explore some other options. I knew I wanted to start before January 1st too, because arbitrary start dates don’t sit well with me.

On December 28th, I decided that I wanted to get in great shape. In the previous days and weeks, however, I hardly exercised at all and felt quite guilty about it. My goal was a 30-minute workout, and it seemed impossible.

I wasn’t motivated, I was tired, and my guilt was making me feel worthless. Feeling stuck, I remembered a technique I learned from a book, and little did I know that this technique would change my life in a big way in 2013.

The technique is from the creativity book Thinkertoys, and it is to consider the opposite of an idea you’re stuck on. So I looked at my 30-minute exercise goal, and my giant fitness plan to get in great shape, and I thought about the opposite.

You could say the opposite is eating fast food and sitting on the couch, but the opposite that came to my mind was one of size.

What if, instead of carrying around this overwhelming fitness anvil on my shoulders, I just did one push-up?

Initially, I scoffed at the idea. How absurd to do a single push-up and act as if it means anything! But when I continued to struggle with my bigger plans, I finally gave in to the idea and did one, and since I was already in push-up position, I did a few more.

After that, my muscles were warmed up, and I decided to try one pull-up. Just like you guessed, I ended up doing several more. Eventually, I had exercised for 30 minutes.

My mind was blown—did I just turn a single push-up into a full workout? Yes, yes I did.

The One Push-Up Challenge Is Born

From here, I challenged my blog readers to do at least one push-up per day for a full year. People have had great success with it, and here’s what it turned into for me: For the last 3+ months, I have gone to the gym three to six times per week to exercise and I’m in great shape because of it. Now I know why it works.

I have always held a keen interest in psychology and neuroscience, and I study them for my writing. So when I read about the studies on willpower that show it’s a limited resource, everything started making sense.

I couldn’t do my 30-minute workout because my willpower wasn’t strong enough or was depleted. But I could do one push-up and segue into a 30-minute workout because it only required a tiny amount of willpower to start, after which my body and mind stopped resisting the idea.

Of course, this concept does not only apply to fitness, but to any area of your life you wish to change. And I believe I’ve found the perfect way to leverage this technique – habits.

What’s More Important Than Your Habits?

Nothing. Habits form about 45% of your total behavior, according to a Duke University study. Not only that, but they are behaviors that you repeat frequently, which compounds their significance in your life. Habits are your foundation, and if this foundation is weak, you won’t be happy with the way you live.

The reason people fail to change their lives, and fail to instill new habits, is because they try to do too much at once. In simplest terms, if your new habit requires more willpower than you can muster, you will fail. If your new habit requires less willpower than you can muster, you will succeed.

The calculation can’t just be for one instance, however, but also for when you’re tired and your willpower is zapped. Can you continue it then?

One thing I’ve been wanting to do more is write. It’s therapeutic for me and I write for a living, so it’s fairly important that I practice. When I found that I wasn’t writing as much as I should, I found out how to combine the power of The One Push-Up Challenge with a habit plan.

How To Change Your Life With Mini Habits

Mini habits are exactly as they sound. First, you choose a desired habit or change you’d like to make—it could be thinking more positively, writing 1000 words a day, or reading two books per week. I’ve had success doing three at once.

Next, you shrink these habits down until they are “stupid small,” a term I made up because when you say the requirement out loud, it is so small that it sounds stupid. Here are mine:

1. Write 50 words per day (article, story, etc.)

2. Write 50 words per day (for the habits book I’m writing)

3. Read two pages in a book per day

Easy, right? I could complete this list in ten minutes total. So far, I’ve met these daily requirements 100% of the time, and then much more.

I’ve actually written one to two thousand words and read 10-30 pages per day, for these 12 days in a row and counting. Prior to this, I wasn’t reading at all and writing very little.

It works because your brain falls for the bait.

“Oh, only 50 words? I can write that.”

And then you start. And you’ll find, like I have, that one you start, good things happen.

Ten Daily Mini Habit Ideas

1. Compliment one person

2. Think two positive thoughts

3. Meditate for one minute

4. Name three things you’re thankful for

5. Do one push-up

6. Write 50 words

7. Read two pages

8. Do ten jumping jacks

9. Go outside and take 100 steps

10. Drink one glass of water

You can change nearly any area of your life; and at one mini habit at a time, it’s easier than you think.

When you remove the pressure and expectations, you allow yourself to start.

What mini habit(s) will you start today?

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Don’t fall into these leadership traps!!

 

I have been a proponent of the importance of leaders developing strengths as a means to improve toward excellence. After all, the best leaders are characterized by the presence of strengths, not the absence of weakness. That concept is illustrated in the article I coauthored for Harvard Business Review, called Making Yourself Indispensable. While it is clearly the path to developing the traits that allow a leader to stand out as remarkable, there are times when leaders need to address their areas of weakness. Some call these “derailleurs”, others call them “fatal flaws”, and still others, euphemistically, refer to them as “opportunities.” By any name, when those weaknesses overshadow a person’s strength, they have to be dealt with.

In my experience reviewing the data in thousands of 360-degree feedback instruments and consulting with senior leaders, these are the biggest traps that render them ineffective.

1. They are lousy role models. Leaders must be the exemplars of behaviors that are valued by any organization. They need to walk their talk and need to talk their walk. That is, they need to behave consistently with the standards set forth and actively support those standards verbally, combining actions and expressions to reinforce the desired actions.

2. They have poor interpersonal skills. We have all experienced leaders that are brilliant technically, or who possess incredible strategic thinking ability but who are abrasive, rude, and harsh to work with. As a result, they create a negative environment that stifles creativity. In other cases, a leader may simply lack any emotional engagement with others, and have simply transactional relationships. In my executive coaching work, this is by far the most common reason I get called.

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3. They neglect the development of bench strength. Coaching, mentoring and developing others are the key areas of competence, when it comes to battling the inevitable attrition that occurs in a majority of organizations. When leaders fail to prioritize staff development, it not only hurts the future of the organization, it creates disengagement among individuals as they feel they are not being invested in.

4. They are closed-minded. These leaders have their way of doing things, (most often the way things have always been done,) and they are not interested in new ideas. In fact, they actively shut down suggestions from others and smother innovation. They reject even exploring new ideas on the basis that they know best.

5. They lack positive energy. Not to mention the harmful influence of negative energy. Even in a neutral state, a leader who is too often phlegmatic can come across as apathetic. No leader can be expected to hold elevated levels of enthusiasm at all times, but at least part of the time, people expect to see passion and even a little fire. The implication of this lack of positive energy is low levels of engagement for those who are lead.

6. They build silos. Collaboration, teamwork, and shared goals are more and more required for success in organizations. One of my clients is fond of saying that the profit dollars for the business “falls through the cracks between the silos.” Leaders who don’t take into account their influence on others, and think only of what their team needs, are too often, not acting in the best interest of the whole organization.

7. They fail to paint a compelling picture of the future. Few employees are motivated by the completion of tasks alone. Most want to understand their part in making the vision of the organization come to life. Providing clear strategy and direction for employees, is one of the critical success factors for leaders. Without it, individuals become mired in tasks and adrift from the mission.

At the end of the day, the saddest part about leaders who routinely exhibit these characteristics is that they are often unaware of them and the impact they are having. These leaders tend to have a very different view of themselves that others do and that gap creates problems for them. I have had to have very direct conversations with clients about the implications of their behaviors and the consequences of not changing. Frequently, that feedback can be a self-correcting mechanism as few leaders show up each day wanting to do a poor job.

Each of us needs to excel by leveraging our natural strengths and abilities. Peter Drucker pointed this out in The Effective Executive over 40 years ago, and that body of work continues to evolve today. But we also need to be mindful of avoiding these leadership traps. Your success will be determined by it!

Do you make this mistake with praise??

Phillips makes a compelling case that saying things like “good job” (which I do all the time with our son) actually sends the message to kids that they are only good when it is stated by a parent. She argues this sets up a situation where children resist challenges when things get difficult, since they get too focused on results instead of persisting through challenges.

As I’m changing my ways at home, I’m struck by how often this shows up in the workplace too. I’ve made the case many times that positive recognition is an important discipline for leaders when people do things right. However, I’ve missed emphasis on a critical component:

Recognition of effort, in addition to results.

And yes, I know that giving too much attention to effort is akin to heresy in organizations where bottom-line results are always top of mind. Virtually every client I’ve worked with puts emphasis on endgame results through formal events, awards ceremonies, and recognition programs…as they should.

Unfortunately, leaders often miss the connection between praise for effort and its influence on future results. Some managers communicate little or nothing as people work diligently, sometimes for years, to get to a rewarded result.

Here’s why praising effort also matters:

With few exceptions, there is almost always a clear connection with appropriate effort and end results. Salespeople sell more if they make more connections. Customer service people get higher ratings if they listen well. If you know an activity the will lead to a later result, you have the chance to influence the result before it happens.

Of course we should continue to recognize the results when the happen…as long as we also recognize that once the results are in, we can’t influence them. However, encouraging people who are putting in the right effort today keeps people engaged now and working towards future results.

If asked, most of us would much rather work for a manager who praised both effort and results. So, let’s be the manager we’d want for ourselves. Find an opportunity this week to give praise where today’s efforts will lead to the right outcomes, long-term.

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